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Is sex slavery a myth?
Sex slavery, also called “white slavery,” is quite real. In some parts of the world, raptio and bride kidnapping is even an enculturated practice.
In many cultures ranging from East Asia, Central Asia, Sub-Saharan Africa, Europe, and Mesoamerica, there are common cultural practices of bride kidnapping. The processes vary, but often have subsisted as traditions for securing mates through exploiting cultural views. In many instances, a man of low social status due to poverty, criminality, or disease will attempt to kidnap, rape, and impregnate a woman in order to violate social stigmas of premarital sex. This stigma typically limits the eligibility of marriage for the victim, procuring her as a wife and potential personal sex slave due to the patriarchal nature of the society.
Yet, there is also larger scale commercial sex slavery. This form of sex slavery often encompasses the abduction and human trafficking of women and sometimes children, placing the victims into situations of forced prostitution and personal sex slaves. Typically the source countries of the human trafficking is from economically impoverished regions and areas of unrest often due to corruption, war, or natural disaster to other more affluent countries, usually those with lax prostitution laws and enforcement. Sometimes this practice merely takes place within a corrupt government system which conspires to cover up the practice, yet mostly an international underground is involved in the movement of sex slaves to all parts of the globe. Underground human trafficking varies in the magnitude of the system. In some cases, organizations are integrated to manage all aspects of the the system, such as in the former Soviet Bloc countries, Hong Kong, Japan, and Colombia. These tend to be tied to larger criminal organizations such as the Yakuza and drug cartels as they firmly possess the resources and infrastructure for the movement of controlled substances. Yet in many other cases, smaller groups work in tandem such that one handles recruiting victims, one transporting, and so on. In some cases, this underground system networks with corrupt governments. In any case, there is rarely any prosecution of human trafficking.
According to the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime, the most common sources of victims of the white slavery trade originate in countries including: Thailand, China, Nigeria, Albania, Bulgaria, Belarus, Moldova and Ukraine. Thailand, Japan, Israel, Belgium, the Netherlands, Germany, Italy, Turkey and the US serve as some of the top destinations for human trafficking. Nonetheless, once appropriated by an affording patriarch, the woman (or child) is then placed in a role of domestic servitude and provides sexual services.
The only potential myth about sex slavery is the legend from antiquity The Rape of the Sabine Women.
Why I don’t have girlfriend?
Based on the manner in which you have posed your question, your lacking a command of the English language makes it difficult for women in this country to access your money. Of course, that assumes that you have any money.
Will love ever find a way? I’m hideously deformed and very insecure about it.
Due to differing notions about love, there are a few things to consider. Even the most widely accepted theories of love within the academic community offer multi-faceted descriptions of love and emotional attachment.
In the 1973 book “The Colors of Love,” John Lee offers notions of love through the analogy of a color wheel. He suggests there are three primary styles of loving:
1. Eros – loving an ideal person; romantic love
2. Ludus – love as a game or conquest
3. Storge – love as friendship
These primaries can then be combined to formulate secondary styles of love:
4. Mania (eros + ludos) – volatile, obsessive love
5. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) – realistic and practical love
6. Agape (Eros + Storge) – selfless love
Lee’s color wheel analogy may not be the best as he simply stopped after his six styles while many more combinations would logically follow.
Similarly, in the mid to late 1980s, Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed the triangular theory of love. The three corners of love are comprised of intimacy (emotional closeness), passion (physical attraction), and commitment (loyalty in short and long term), through which all love styles are derived. Sternberg proposed that the more components to a type of love, the stronger the potential to endure.
1. Nonlove – the absence of all three components
2. Liking (intimacy)- closeness without intense passion
3. Infatuation (passion) – based purely on attraction without substance or loyalty
4. Empty love (commitment) – love without closeness or passion, based solely on loyalty (such as arranged marriage)
5. Romantic love (passion + intimacy) – emotional bond through passionate physical arousal
6. Companionate love (intimacy + commitment) – lacking sexual desire, but a strong loyalty due to shared beliefs/feelings
7. Fatuous love (passion + commitment) – lacks intimacy to stabilize, usually marked by premature commitment decisions based solely on attraction.
8. Consummate love – balanced and ideal
Both characterizations of love being similar, they differ from that of Elaine Hatfield. She alleges there to be two basic types of love: passionate love and compassionate love. Compassionate love is that which arises out of mutual sentiments of trust, respect, and understanding. Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions; when they are reciprocated people feel fulfilled and when not they are despondent. Passionate love therefore plagues those with low self-esteem, forming a cycle of transitory amorous relationships.
In spite of any differences, all of the theories of love can be said to reduce to simple psychological notions of reciprocal relationships. By and large, we have a tendency to reinforce beneficial behaviors, and punish detrimental ones. At a fundamental level, beneficial behaviors are those that facilitate our survival and propagation – that is, these behaviors secure our safety and potential for reproduction. Thus, love, anger, sadness, and the gamut of emotional responses all serve as an evolutionary apparatus that perpetuates the species.
Of course, sexual selection is a key factor in this genetic perpetuation. Therefore the emotional phenomena of love is closely entwined with physical attributes that are markedly distinctive of physical fitness and beauty. Physical fitness and beauty are understood to be implicit indications of greater chance of survival and further perpetuation.
With that being said, considering your deformities within this classical understanding of love, sexuality, and evolution, it is not likely that you will find love given your insecurities. However, taken into consideration the advent of our materially affluent civilization with its sufficiently accessible medical practices, whereas in another place and time you would be considered an invalid on the margins of society, you now have the opportunity to find someone with an equally putrid visage and pathetic self-concept.